Have you ever met a shallow kind of man, a person who has inhibitions about himself, a person who thinks no end himself. An imbecile of the first degree. Such men are the products of an Indian society, which is strung up with the fact that this is a male child. When he is born there are celebrations and when he grows up, his mother pampers him no end and makes the best of food for him and makes him feel like a king!
When he grows up, irrespective of the fact, that he has now matured into a full-grown man, not only his mother but most of his female and male elders, make a firm impression in his mind that he is invincible and a very treasured entity!
This is the quintessential Bihari Man, sorry to be specific, but its a fact, that these are one of the most deplorable products of our Indian Society. They grow up in an environment where their inflated egos rule the roost and due to this mentality, they don't know where they are wrong and how they should behave in their regular lives.
When they live in their own state of Bihar, then they don't face issues of any kind as all of their counterparts have a similar thought process. The problem starts when he migrates to the neighboring states or other cities. It's in these places that they start facing a lot of ridicule and taunting, due to their strung up attitudes. They are also rudely called, Äie Bihari!"
See the problem is not that these men are bad, the problem is in their general attitude. For them, the world is small and they cant think further. They don't know how to respect others and if someone picks out their faults, then they are beside themselves with anger. They don't know how to tackle criticism and get defensive of their behavior.
They should be explained, as to how they should conduct themselves and behave in a respectful manner. They are strung up and proud lumps, due to the kind of upbringing they get from their families. The problem is there and not with the men, in particular.
I remember a maidservant who was exploited by a Bihari man, to marry him secretively, as he wanted a son from her! When the lady gave birth to a girl child, he deserted her! Another instance was when my driver, who was a Bihari, was getting impatient to go home one day, when I asked him, as to what was the matter, then he told me that he had called his son, from the village, and the boy was so pampered by his mom, that he wouldn't even take a glass of water on his own, henceforth, he would remain hungry the whole day, till his father came to feed him!
Now the above instances are the height of Indian mentality. I want to ask one simple question, that all this pampering and spoiling of the boy child, is really worth it, despite the fact that most of the men desert their parents when they grow old! I feel the hyped fact, of the son being a support system for his parents, has created this mentality, on the part of the people of India.
Once the people understand that a girl and a boy are equal and this thought seeps in the minds of a regular village woman until then, any change is impossible to happen. Once the root of the matter is tackled with, then the by Product, will not come, as it is now.
A normal human being is essentially noble and kind-hearted, it is the upbringing and values which he has, that actually shape him. So I would like to hail to the women to be sensible in bringing up their boys in a way that they respect their women and elders and understand that they are equal coordinates of the women, with whom they coexist.
Humanity is good if it is shaped in a certain manner, but if the men get an upbringing, which itself is supporting the gender bias, then the men shouldn't be blamed for it.
When he grows up, irrespective of the fact, that he has now matured into a full-grown man, not only his mother but most of his female and male elders, make a firm impression in his mind that he is invincible and a very treasured entity!
This is the quintessential Bihari Man, sorry to be specific, but its a fact, that these are one of the most deplorable products of our Indian Society. They grow up in an environment where their inflated egos rule the roost and due to this mentality, they don't know where they are wrong and how they should behave in their regular lives.
When they live in their own state of Bihar, then they don't face issues of any kind as all of their counterparts have a similar thought process. The problem starts when he migrates to the neighboring states or other cities. It's in these places that they start facing a lot of ridicule and taunting, due to their strung up attitudes. They are also rudely called, Äie Bihari!"
See the problem is not that these men are bad, the problem is in their general attitude. For them, the world is small and they cant think further. They don't know how to respect others and if someone picks out their faults, then they are beside themselves with anger. They don't know how to tackle criticism and get defensive of their behavior.
They should be explained, as to how they should conduct themselves and behave in a respectful manner. They are strung up and proud lumps, due to the kind of upbringing they get from their families. The problem is there and not with the men, in particular.
I remember a maidservant who was exploited by a Bihari man, to marry him secretively, as he wanted a son from her! When the lady gave birth to a girl child, he deserted her! Another instance was when my driver, who was a Bihari, was getting impatient to go home one day, when I asked him, as to what was the matter, then he told me that he had called his son, from the village, and the boy was so pampered by his mom, that he wouldn't even take a glass of water on his own, henceforth, he would remain hungry the whole day, till his father came to feed him!
Now the above instances are the height of Indian mentality. I want to ask one simple question, that all this pampering and spoiling of the boy child, is really worth it, despite the fact that most of the men desert their parents when they grow old! I feel the hyped fact, of the son being a support system for his parents, has created this mentality, on the part of the people of India.
Once the people understand that a girl and a boy are equal and this thought seeps in the minds of a regular village woman until then, any change is impossible to happen. Once the root of the matter is tackled with, then the by Product, will not come, as it is now.
A normal human being is essentially noble and kind-hearted, it is the upbringing and values which he has, that actually shape him. So I would like to hail to the women to be sensible in bringing up their boys in a way that they respect their women and elders and understand that they are equal coordinates of the women, with whom they coexist.
Humanity is good if it is shaped in a certain manner, but if the men get an upbringing, which itself is supporting the gender bias, then the men shouldn't be blamed for it.
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