Inner Validation

 

Selfish Fixations

As we grow up we’re conditioned in selfish ways that allow for our fixations to be as they are. Simply put, if our selfish fixations were based in love humanity would be much different…

As I look back, I see how many of my fixations arose from selfish conditioning, this was just part of what was there growing up. Nothing particularly right or wrong in this, especially because there wasn’t much that could have been done differently. It’s very difficult to act in a loving manner if that’s not what’s in place growing up. Some things are learned naturally, but everything takes some conditioning associated with it. If you’re learning how to golf, at first it’s awkward with no knowledge as to the best way to swing a club, but the more you do it the more awareness of how to swing there is. This way of learning is beneficial when what you’re learning is based in love. Part of the problem is when what becomes fixated on isn’t based in love because it seems natural. This is why it’s so hard to change. I knew what was right (loving) and what was wrong (selfish) growing up, but doing what was loving was not what I was conditioned to do so being selfish became natural for me; there wasn’t anybody to tell me different.

To say the least, these selfish fixations caused much suffering because there wasn’t any room for much else to be seen. This is the merry-go-round most people are unknowingly on and it’s a direct result of why humanity is the way that it is. If we all grew up with our fixations based in loved, humanity would be much different, it’s that simple. I know this because fifteen years ago I began seeing things differently (of love) and lo and behold things began changing. It doesn’t mean it’s always this way, but just as it is with learning to swing a golf club properly, it takes practice. And for me it’s done so the loving behavior becomes as natural as the selfish fixations were…

Truthful Vision

Your answers will always be within yourself, you just need to make sure the tools that are being used are showing you a truthful vision of what is the most beneficial way to live…

Many years ago I had a definite vision of the direction I wanted my life to go as I began the study of my own mind. There weren’t any lofty goals or some great state of mind to attain to make my life about something in particular, all I had was a truthful vision of peace; a peace that eluded me for most of my life, this is still my vision today. Just because you’re on a so called spiritual path, it doesn’t mean what you’re doing is truly beneficial. I did things for many years that I was told were beneficial to me and it turned out not to be so; they were things that actually keep me suffering. I won’t go into details, but what I do today is beneficial and how I know this is because I’m at peace and I don’t have a real desire for anything else. I have a passion in my heart to share my experience with others, but it’s not an aching as I don’t need this moment to be different. If you’re not looking for anything that’s how you will know if you have a truthful vision as opposed to one made up by the Conditioned Mind.

You may want to be the most spiritual person in your circle, you may be reading all the right books, quoting all the right people, and putting all your energy into a so called practice, but there’s only one question and that is can you stop it all and still be at peace? If not, what you’re doing is only being used to distort your vision. I had a distorted vision for forty nine years so I know what I’m talking about. Try another book, a program, therapy, another pill, dieting, meditation, drugs, alcohol, and on an on, but when the tasks is complete and you’re living your daily life if you don’t have a clear vision of peace, what you’re doing isn’t working. There are many pointers in life, but your vision becomes distorted by thinking the pointers are the answers. The answers are simply within, you just need to make sure the tools you’re using are showing you a truthful vision that provides you with the most beneficial way to live…

Pleasure Chasing

For most, pleasure chasing is something that’s constant; it’s a direct link to what keeps the mind in a state of agitation. When things are accepted as they are, pleasure chasing is no longer needed…

We live in a pleasure chasing society. When it’s cold we chase warmth, when it’s hot we chase cool. Pleasure chasing is how many people spend their entire lives. If it’s not learned to be with the discomforts of what happens and not constantly push them away, there will be very little peace in your life. We live mostly in a place where we’re afraid of this discomfort because it means facing ourselves. Although our true essence is the love of all creation, this isn’t seen because the Conditioned Mind doesn’t allow it.

Once awareness is developed that allows some discipline to at least slow the mind down, it can be seen how pleasure chasing occupies most of our waking hours; we’re in a constant fix it mode trying to have things the way we think they need to be in order to be happy. The problem with this is nothing stays the same so we have to constantly make adjustments. It’s truly exhausting to live this way, but it’s the way most people live. It doesn’t have to be this way, but the only way it won’t be is if you can be with what occurs and not want it different than what it is. This doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy pleasure, just understand pleasure isn’t what allows you to be at peace. When you can accept things as they are that’s when you stop pleasure chasing…

False Thoughts

When truth is revealed no longer do you hold onto your thoughts because it’s understood most of them are false…

Don’t believe every thought because they tell you things that are false. Your thoughts will tell you the past is real yet the only place the past exist is in the mind. Your thoughts will tell you to fear, yet the only thing you have to fear is fear itself. Your thoughts will tell you to hold onto the belief of a self that’s a solid entity, but the form that’s being occupied needs no such attachment to exist as it’s always in a constant state of flux. Your thoughts will tell you I think therefore I am, but thoughts have nothing to do with I am. Your thoughts will make up beliefs that everything desired on the outside is needed, but if none of those desires come to pass, nothing happens. Even if they do get fulfilled, the satisfaction is fleeting at best. Then there’s the thoughts of the so called ego, this is like the bogeyman under the bed, it’s there until you look under the bed. Also, there’s no need to get rid of thoughts as they only exist because you think they do.

There’s the image in the mirror who is thought to be given a name for identification purposes. If the name is different the thought is we are someone else, but that’s only a thought because the form remains the same. There will be thoughts that are held onto that are false. Unfortunately the more your thoughts are attached to, the truer they seem. To truly be free, your false thoughts will have to be exposed. This doesn’t mean you find out you don’t exist, what you find out is you don’t exist in the way you thought you did. When this truth is revealed no longer do you hold onto your thoughts because it’s understood most of them are false…

Base of Stillness

The energy that unites and draws humanity together is the base of stillness. When you’re in this space others are attracted to it as it’s the one place where there’s unity simply because of the base of stillness…

It’s very important to have a base of stillness so people know there’s a place they can turn to. Everyone needs a place where they know they can go for relief from the unconscious world. It does matter what this base is, if you go to a place that’s used as distractions it may feel like relief, but it won’t be. If you get lost in something mundane, the day will go by because that’s life, but if you’re spending the same day in the base of stillness, you’ll exude peace and people will be drawn to you.

Don’t be concerned with what others think, just have stillness as your base and let no one take that away. Exuding stillness in a world that is mostly based in noise will allow others to also be in stillness which is needed for any transformation to occur. The stillness that draws someone to you is the stillness that becomes part of humanity. Life is an open experience so if you’re not learning from it you most likely have your mind made up what it’s about. When you truly see these made up stories aren’t needed, they fall away. This falling away allows life to be based in stillness. When you’re in this space others will be attracted to it as it’s the one place where there’s unity simply because of the base of stillness…

Present Moment Anchor

The mind is usually everywhere but the present moment, the body is an anchor to use in a sitting practice because there’s no way it can’t be in the present moment…

The importance of developing a sitting practice is in how this develops discipline which allows the mind to settle enough so one is in the present more often than not. The breath is used for this because it anchors you in the body which is always in the present. You never take a past or future breath, you can only take a breath in the present, this is why the breath is used. It’s the same reason chants are used. When Om is used, you don’t Om in the past or the future, you Om right now. When this is done it anchors you in the body which is always in the Now. The mind for most is constantly in the past or future. There are times when it’s present, but this is fleeting and mostly occurs because of happenstance. The body is a great anchor to use in a sitting practice because there’s no way it can’t be present. This doesn’t prevent anything from happening, but what it does do is it allows for one’s awareness to be with what’s happening instead of having resisting energy trying to use something to push it away. This resisting energy is at the core of how addictions manifest.

Besides a sitting practice, I often use the tool of simply looking down at my feet since wherever my feet are there I am; this also anchors me in the present. This is also why one uses a mindfulness practice, such as walking meditation. When you’re mindful of each step, you’re anchored in the body which as stated before, is always in the present moment. Life is magical in relation to form, but there’s nothing magical in being present for what’s actually happening as long as one is aware that it’s not happening to you, it’s just what’s happening, you just happen to be present to observe it…