Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 01/01/19~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am starting fresh – new days with new moments filled with fresh thoughts and fresh results! I am beginning every new day with a good mindset, great attitude, and better behavior for better results and outcomes! I am reflecting on the past appreciatively for the lessons I learned while I look ahead inspirited for new adventures, new events, new interactions, new things, and new memories…”
to continue a greater life!
☆☆☆☆ HAPPY NEW YEAR~ 2019 ☆☆☆☆
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 01/01/18~

Life Right Now

What arises in the present moment can’t be changed, but it can be accepted as it is. When this is done life can truly be lived because when what’s there is accepted nothing needs to be different…

To be with life as it is what arises has to be accepted. What arises is what occurs right now and it’s the only place where life happens. If what’s here right now isn’t accepted, life will be made into something that’s difficult. Life can never be anything more than what it is because right now is what has arisen; only the Conditioned Mind makes you think this isn’t so. Life is always about what’s here because that’s what’s happening now. You can wish for things to be different, but that’s how you wish your life away. Accept what’s happening now, be with what’s in front of you so you can be with life.

There needs to be some semblance of quiet so your direction is clearly seen. It’s very easy to become distracted if you aren’t vigilant. There are many distractions that will try to divert you from the present moment. It’s like life is an obstacle course and things are in place to divert you from being with what’s here now. There’s only the present moment and it’s always what’s in front of you. One of the main obstacles used as a distraction is wanting things different. Your own mind tells you if things were different life would be better, but this is the great lie; the delusion of the Conditioned Mind. When what’s in front of you is accepted there’s no struggle with wanting things different; it’s in this space that you can be with life as it is…

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/31/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am loving the better path! I am enjoying the good stuff, great memories, and better results! I am leading myself on a better journey! I am enjoying the good people, great circumstances, and better outcomes! I am focusing on joy throughout my travels for the good, great, and better…
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/31/18~

Nothing to Fear, but Fear Itself

“I” likes to make monsters out of nothing through attachment and although fear is something that may arise, it doesn’t have to be given the energy “I” wants to give it; the only reason “I” does this is so it exist…

Fear is nothing more than a story that arises, it’s not something to push away, but it will be feared if it’s not understood and this is because of the unconscious relationship that fear has with “I”. Fear itself has no fearing quality inherently, it’s just a word, but when “I” attaches to it, it’s given energy and thus it’s given life. This isn’t to say scary things will not occur in life, but only the relation to “I” causes issue because of the story “I fear” story you attach to. Fear only exist as a story created by “I” and when you truly learn this, “I” attachment is lessened and so is the associated fear. Be with what arises, but don’t let the fear of it control you.

When the mind settles, fear is simply seen as something that just arises. All fear is temporary, although it’s only a mental construct the mind that fears becomes entrapped to see it as lasting forever. When this occurs fear becomes the master puppeteer. Attachment to “I” may not seem to be the cause of what is fearful, but that’s what cements it in place and gives it control, this is how “I” works. “I” makes monsters out of nothing through attachment and although the fear may be there, it doesn’t have to be given the energy that “I” wants to give it. The only reason “I” does this is to exist. Without “I” there’s no one there to attach to and without attachment there’s nothing to fear, but fear itself…

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/30/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am enriching my life further with positive effective interactions, awesome experiences, inspiring people, and memorable events! I am enriching my self further with an optimistic lifestyle filled with loving emotions, better affecting habits, win-win situations, and positive communication! I am thriving on greater well-being…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/30/18~

New Beginnings


Here we are at the beginning of another new year. Perhaps, you too, hope that 2019 will take a turn for the better, since 2018 was filled with many challenges. Naturally, it is always a time to review the past and look forward to the future, and of course, we try to make a better future for ourselves by proclaiming new resolutions. Often, they are not new commitments, but rather, old resurrected promises to ourselves that never came to fruition. Then, when we have done this year after year for decades, we may abandon the whole idea of creating new resolutions. However, new beginnings inspire us. They give us hope and motivate us to greater heights, greater goals. Perhaps, we should evaluate our commitment, our methods for achieving those goals, and our progress toward accomplishing our resolutions.

Generally, we are committed to making our resolutions a reality at first but lose our momentum along the way. We may not always take into consideration the work involved in undertaking such an aspiration. Most of all, we do not always involve God in our plans. Christ metaphorically described Himself as the vine, and we as the branches. He said that if we remain in Him, we will bear much fruit. He went so far as to say that “apart from me you can do nothing” and “If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask for whatever you wish, and it will be done for you” (John 15:5-7).

Therefore, first we need to consult God in choosing which resolutions would be worthy of our efforts. We should seek God’s will for us. Keep in mind that God’s will is that we love Him and love our neighbors, and to conform to His will, He intends for us to be more like Christ. He desires that we be humble, self-disciplined, merciful and pure in heart. God’s will is that we live with integrity, keeping our word and avoiding hypocrisy. He desires that we maintain balance in our lives in caring for our bodies and in how we spend our time. All this requires that we set appropriate priorities in our lives, always keeping God first.

Next, we need to set goals for ourselves that are attainable and realistic. This means that we should only choose one or two resolutions at a time, and we should plan a timeline with short-term mini-goals to achieve our resolution. I know that many of my past resolutions neglected to into account that often, resolutions require a permanent change in us. This is a reality we must consider. In addition, we must remember to expect challenges and setbacks. We should not expect perfection.

If we are truly committed to following through on our resolution, we must write it down and keep a log of our progress. Writing down goals is a physical action of making a mental decision. Once we get it on paper and look at it, our resolution takes on a sense of urgency because we have made the decision. Keeping a log of our progress aids in motivating us. Little steps go a long way to helping us persevere. As we make progress, we may need to adjust our mini-goals or timeline for a more realistic plan, so we do not find ourselves discouraged.

Throughout the process of achieving our resolution, we must talk to God. We can ask Him to strengthen our resolve or assist us in remaining patient. We can ask God to guide us in our planning and progress. Most of all, remember “whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do everything for the glory of God” (1 Corinthians 10:31) and “My Father is glorified by this, that you bear much fruit and become my disciples” (John 15:8).

Making changes in us is the work of the Holy Spirit who dwells within us. He is able to transform us. Therefore, we must pray continually and thank God for the progress we make along the way. God reassures us, “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine…Do not remember the former things or consider the things of old. I am about to do a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?” (Isaiah 43:1, 18-19) Christ did a new thing in us when He died for our sins and rose again to everlasting life. He gave us the Holy Spirit to guide us and strengthen us.

I ask myself, “Do you not perceive it? Are you not bought with a price, the blood of our Lord Jesus Christ? Are you not His?” I remind myself, as Paul did, “but this one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the heavenly call of God in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 3:13-14). I will forget the past and look forward to the blessings which lie ahead. I pray that I will hear God and know His will for me. I pray that He will give me the strength and perseverance to stay the course. I tell myself, “you have stripped off the old self with its practices and have clothed yourselves with the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge according to the image of its creator” (Colossians 3:9-10). I pray that these passages will inspire and encourage you, as well.

Happy New Year!

© 2019  Helen Kamenos  All rights reserved
 http://www.helenkamenos.com/


Love Based Intentions

Mostly intentions are either from the base energy of love or selfishness, this is what makes the world the way it is. If you want the world to be different simply have love based intentions and watch it transform…

Our intentions are a determining factor in the energy that is put out to the world. There are intentions of selfishness, expecting something in return for your doings, and there are intentions to love, expecting nothing whatsoever in return. These are obviously very different base energies. Love intentions don’t necessarily result in seeing the fruits of your labors, at least not by some. The intentions behind my daily writings and writing my book arose strictly from the love to possibly help someone not go through the suffering I did for forty nine years; there are those who see my intentions as something different. When it comes to intentions “To thine own self be true” is so important because it really doesn’t matter how anyone sees what you do; you know your heart regardless of what anyone else thinks. The Universe knows your intentions and that’s all that matters.

The world cannot judge you fairly nor can an individual. “May he who is without sin cast the first stone” who is so pure that they can judge another. If your intention is to judge that’s not from the intention of love; it’s strictly selfish. There is so much selfishness in our world and those who have no intention based in love are what keeps the world the way it is. If you truly have a heart with the intentions to love, there’s no way you can judge another because there’s no separation, there’s only oneness. When all you do is have the intentions to love and act accordingly, that’s the energy you’re putting out in the world and I assure you that is what will make a difference…

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/29/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
"I am respecting and loving myself better, and sharing the best version of myself with others! I am living a lifestyle of optimism and joy, and surrounding myself with like-minded people! I rather better my days..."
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/29/18~

Undersatanding the Cause

Nothing is done or held onto without an underlying cause and if that cause isn’t understood, you will unconsciously succumb to its consequences as if you were a dog on a leash…

When some feeling or emotion arises something causes it. Learn to see the cause of the emotion arising and the feelings that go along with the cause. Whatever arises has a cause, the reason for that cause and the sensation of it needs to be understood if your aren’t to be blindly drawn in and controlled by it. Nothing is held onto without an underlying cause and if that cause isn’t understood, you will unconsciously succumb to the cause as if you were a dog on a leash. Why people don’t see how this holds them in captivity is because many of the things that are being held onto are used to make your identity and also the holding is done because your conditioning tells you what you are holding onto is needed. When the cause of what arises is understood or at least noticed, there arises an awareness of what what you are thinking. When this occurs there’s the possibility it will fall away and in the process your made up stories fall away.

As stated before, why it’s so difficult to see this is because what’s being held onto is thought to be bringing you pleasure of some kind, and it may be in some way, but it’s not true pleasure because no object has the capability of providing true pleasure; one is easily deluded by this. Regardless of what it is if what’s causing you to think you need something to feel good (pleasure) the object becomes your prison regardless of what’s used. So if the cause of why something arises and is held onto isn’t understood, you might as well keep the dog collar on because when your conditioning says it’s time for a walk you will have to go because the conditioning in place isn’t understood…

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/28/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am positively affirming good results, great outcomes, and better progress in my future! I am positively affirming better situations, great success, and good circumstances in my life! I am thinking ahead, looking forward, and appreciating now…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/28/18~

Unconscious Desiring

Unconscious Desiring
The conditioned mind creates a view based in the unconscious desires of the world. It’s difficult to break this because most of what goes on in our daily lives reinforces this view. A conscious mind is simply aware of awareness…

I understand life’s struggles have nothing to do with life, it’s an unconscious view based in the world of desires that cause struggles, and this is because this view is controlled by the conditioned mind. When unconscious desires are fulfilled and things are going your way, there’s not much of a struggle; life is considered good. When things are going the way that you want, what causes your struggles are pushed aside. When this is done it makes the base of life centered in the world of unconscious desires and you will get pulled around by the conditioned mind like a puppet on a string.
The more this occurs the more suffering there will be in your life. Sometimes it’s very subtle, but it’s there. As a matter of fact even if you’re not aware of being controlled by the unconscious desires, they still produce suffering. The suffering doesn’t occur because you don’t get your way, it occurs just by being in a state where the unconscious conditioned mind is in control.

The less the world of unconscious desires (which is just wanting what you want, when you want it) are the base of your view, the less you struggle with yourself and with life. This is simply because unconscious desires aren’t in control. When you’re unaware of this the conditioned mind creates chaos by unconsciously desiring; there’s immense suffering in this unawareness. Practice being in a space of no mind, with no mind there is no unconscious desiring. When you don’t have unconscious desiring you don’t want and when you don’t want, you don’t create problems that cause suffering; a free mind is free of unconscious desiring…

Investigating What You Do

The root of all struggles go very deep, they’re not just at the level of what is seen, they’re rooted in the structure of how we think. If you don’t investigate why you do what you do, nothing will ever be different…

Changing our mental structure is like turning a battle ship, the intention to turn happens right away, but the turn itself is very gradual. It’s as though we know we need to start turning right away, but we don’t know why. Here’s a simple suggestion if you want to get in touch with breaking free of this engrained mental structure, and it’s not complicated. When you do something, investigate why it was done. No reason to go back and look for a traumatic incident, why it’s being done right now is sufficient.

If the need to reach for something happens because life throws you a curve ball and you don’t investigate why the need to reach arose, you’ll probably use a distraction not to succumb to it, but by doing this you will never be free because you will never get in touch with why the reaching was needed in the first place. Investigating why you are doing this or that is the most important thing you can do for yourself when something is done that’s not in your best interest. If you don’t, you will just substitute one thing for another and in the process remain entrapped to what’s causing the need to reach. You may not like this post and you may even ignore it, but don’t be surprised when the next curve ball comes and you find yourself reaching for something, you just won’t know why you’re doing so…

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/27/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
"I am putting more effort and focus on giving and not getting! I am living a happier, healthier, and meaningful livelihood enriched with greater value and purpose for greater benefits! I am positively affecting all aspects of my life with value and worth! I am supporting win-win situations in my relationships and interactions while I look forward to positively impacting my future..."
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/27/18~

Celebrate Life

We exist because of Universal Love. Life is a Universal celebration as a manifestation of our human form; love is our true nature. To awaken to this is to awaken to celebrate life…

We need not wait for a certain time to celebrate life. This may seem like a cliche, but if you are alive everyday is truly a holiday because being alive is a celebration of life manifested from Universal Love, and we are the gift, the present of the Universe to the world. If you don’t think this is so it isn’t because of life, it’s because of the misperception you are viewing life from. What you are probably saying is, if the Universe is love what about all the unpleasant things that occur in life or the pure evil of some things that are experienced. This is just something to ponder, all of the things that happen, good, bad, or indifferent are not produced by the Universe, they are a direct product that results in the behavior of the human will.

Love is our true nature, it is our gift. Our celebration is an everyday occurrence and one day our celebration will not be manifested in this form, but our true nature of love will still be. This is the way it is because this is the way the Universe is, and since we are a present of the Universe our nature is always love. When a gift is given to someone in the spirit of love, no matter what happens after the gift is given, it will never take away that it was given in love. No matter how hardened you become by your conditioning, love will always be your true nature. Know this truth and you will make everyday a holiday and celebrate life as it was intended to be. May everyday be a holiday whatever it is that you celebrate, not only with your immediate family, but with the entire human family that this planet is shared with. Everyday is a holiday in the sense it’s a celebration because of the love given by the Universe; without its love we would not be. So whatever holiday it is for you, may it be life that you celebrate and may it be happy, joyous, and free. Merry Christmas

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/25/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am grateful, grateful, grateful today! I am thankful, thankful, thankful right now! I am living it up while laughing it down and loving it all everywhere in between moment in moment out! I am being my best self today with an absolute focus for awesome moments and loving memories…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/25/18~

Unknown Territory

We repeat the same mistakes again an again and we constantly respond to the same triggers because we react out of the habit of what’s known; this is done without even realizing it…

There are many reasons why an awakening process is so difficult, but to me the one that sticks out the most is how the Conditioned Mind holds onto what’s known even if it causes extreme pain. When I was twenty five my oldest brother passed away from a cocaine related incident that forced me (not on my own) to look at my alcohol and drug use. His death opened my eyes somewhat, but even though my life was a mess, it didn’t mean I was ready to dive in the unknown without my pacifiers to cope with life; this was with full knowledge that alcohol and drugs were causing me problems. It took another two years before I was ready to go into unknown territory; I figured it had to be better than the known way that was killing me.

The reason it took two years was because although I was in extreme emotional pain, my conditioning led me to believe facing the unknown was too scary and the known was the way to go; the lies of the Conditioned Mind run deep. This is why we repeat the same mistakes again an again and it’s also why we constantly react to the same triggers; we react out of habit without even realizing it. The conditioning in place dictates what we do as it’s obeyed without question. Here’s the real irony in all of this, people actually believe they have free will and they have a choice, but the only thing you can do is submit to what’s known because that’s what’s in place. Once there’s awareness of this, succumbing to the known conditioning can be stopped as the choice to live life freely becomes a possibility…

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/24/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am absorbing it all in to benefit my life for learning, enjoying, and sharing! I am doing more than just surviving! I am thriving on my strengths, skills, talents, experiences, and education! I am sharing my joy, my gratitude, my love, and my best for greater moments! I am thriving on greater interactions, relationships, and network…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/24/18~

Unguarded Thinking

It’s important to notice your thinking because even if what you do comes from a labeled place of love, this label produces the bondage of unguarded thinking which controls you like all unguarded thinking…

If you can’t watch your own thinking to decipher if it’s truly beneficial, hold on because you’ll be taken on the roller coaster ride of life. Not that life does anything directly to you, but thinking arises and these determines what kind of ride you will be on. Noticing your unguarded thinking is essential if you’re not to be controlled by it. Thinking is a natural part of life, it will occur. As far as I know there’s no way of controlling the thinking that arises, but I have found that noticing it allows for a split second hesitation that can be used to decipher whether or not what you are thinking is beneficial; remember attachment causes suffering, no matter how it’s labeled.

I often say the Conditioned Mind is diabolical and unless there’s some awareness of how you are controlled by thinking, it will and this has to happen, control you as if you were a puppet on a string. So subtle is this control that even if you are doing things that are labeled as loving, if this thinking isn’t watched it will control you and bondage is bondage regardless of what label is applied to your thinking. This is why the Conditioned Mind is diabolical because of its subtleness in using whatever it can to remain in control. This is also why it’s so important to notice your thinking because even if what you do comes from a labeled place of love, the bondage this produces is that of unguarded thinking which controls you like all unguarded thinking…

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/23/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am loving today just as much as I loved yesterday and I shall love tomorrow just as much as I am loving today! I am using various types, forms, styles, levels, and degrees of love today for everyone and everything! I am loving the blessings from things to people to events to experiences…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/23/18~

Hate Isn't Natural

Love doesn’t need a thought to arise as hate does. When you love it arises naturally, hate cannot do that, there has to be a story attached to hate for it to arise and the story originates from your own mind.

All hate arises from the thought of it. This means the dastardly things that are done are because hate is triggered from what’s within. One of the most misunderstood things about hate is the one hated basically goes unscathed while the hater feels the full effects of the hate. This is the exact opposite energy of love, but because of the way we’ve been conditioned the energy of hate seems to be much more engrained. I wrote something on a post about hate coming from ones own heart, but what really happens is all hate is mind based so it comes from the mind. Although many people are driven by a passion which seems like it’s from the heart, it gets misconstrued when it’s mind based. The Pharisee’s hate from Jesus was of the mind, it had nothing to do with Jesus, it was triggered by the hate that was within themselves.

Love doesn’t need a thought as hate does; thoughts actually block love. You can just love, but you cannot just hate. There has to be a story attached to hate for it to arise and the story originates from the Conditioned Mind. True love needs no such story and if you think it does, that comes from the head and not the heart. A story of love may seem like it’s the opposite of hate and although the results may be different, it’s still a story; it’s made up just like the story of hate is. Love is natural, it’s seen all around and a story isn’t needed to recognize it. A baby’s smile, a puppy or kitten, random acts of kindness, silence, the beauty of the world, all examples of love that doesn’t need a story. How you will know when something is from the truth of love is it wells up in your heart naturally without an attached story being needed.

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/22/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am acknowledging, accepting, and appreciating all the good going on during my moments as they come and go! I am present here and now with love and content toward optimizing my time and energy for greater benefit! I am attracting greater moments with a greater mindset…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/22/18~

Love Yourself to Love Others

No one can harm you as much as you can harm yourself, and it’s done through your own thoughts. The essence of life is to learn to love yourself unconditionally so you can in turn be an instrument of love to others…
For many years I di
d things to myself that I wouldn’t have allowed anyone to do to me. Not all of this harm was in the form of glaring self destructive behavior, some was in the form of very subtle thoughts, but it was harmful nonetheless. If I truly loved myself I would have never done this to myself, but I didn’t know any better so the self sabotage behavior was the normal. I’m not talking about a lip service love here, I’m talking about genuine unconditional love where there is absolutely no judgement whatsoever. Love is a word that is given more lip service than actual action. You will never truly love your neighbor if you don’t really understand how to love yourself and this is because you can never be anything different than what is within you.


I try to align everything I do with love as I’ve learned what behaviors are loving and which ones aren’t. I love myself to the point where I don’t want to not only cause harm to me, but I also don’t want to harm anyone else. Although it may seem that I share to help others, it’s only partially true. I share because it reinforces the love I have for myself. This isn’t an ego thing, it’s about learning how you are your own worse enemy, that is until you aren’t. There was no greater harm done to me by anyone than what I did to myself, but in the space of quietness I have learned to stop doing this. To me life isn’t about being good, moral, honest, or any other story that can be made up, it’s one thing and one thing only and that’s to learn to love yourself unconditionally so you can in turn be an instrument of love to others…


Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/21/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am making it one way or another! I am meant to succeed and I am meant to be happy! I am here to enjoy and I am here to satisfy! I am doing more for myself and doing more for others throughout my success! I am succeeding one way or another…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/21/18~

Expanding Beyond Limits

The mind only becomes limited by the view of life you get locked into. When your mind remains open anything is possible because the conditioned limits that are in place for most simply aren’t there…


The tighter and more restricted your mind is, the more problems it seems you have. If there isn’t free flowing energy almost everything becomes a problem in some way. I’ve seen this in myself and in others and it’s all because of the narrow view (“I”) that causes a tight and restricted mind. “I” was put in parentheses because if that’s the only view that’s being allowed, you can see how restricted that makes you. A narrow mind leads to a narrow view and with a narrow view there’s no space for the current view to expand. This locks you into only seeing things through “ I” and keeps you limited to that view. Imagine going through life like this, it would mean the only way you would be happy is if everything that happened was in line with your view, and we all know that’s not going to happen, not all the time anyway. This means you better do whatever it takes to open your mind or you will pay dearly and so will those who are near and dear to you.


Close your fist as tight as you can and notice how there’s no space, this is just like a tight and restricted mind, there’s no room for anything else. Keep it closed as tight as you can, now notice how it’s getting tired and how your hand is starting to hurt, this is the energy you’re living with everyday, only it’s the mind that’s tight and restricted. It’s no wonder there’s no expansion, there’s barely enough space for ordinary living. Now open your hand and see how it instantly relieves the tightness and restriction. Open your mind in the same way and it will do the same thing. It’s the holiday season so please give yourself the gift of an open mind and it will be the gift that keeps on giving simply because your view of life will keep on expanding. You deserve this, after all this is your life…


Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/20/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am striving for a better today than yesterday! I am thriving with an attitude of gratitude, positive mindset, and good thoughts for better moments today! I am supporting my better behavior with good healthy self-talk and positive thoughts to keep me moving forward for greater days…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/20/18~

A Beneficial View

Most people will say life is beneficial if everything is going their way. It can always be beneficial regardless of the circumstances, but only if it’s seen how all things are impermanent, including life itself…


On life being considered beneficial or not if you’re thinking it isn’t it won’t be, and even if you say it is, it will still not be beneficial if that’s what you truly believe; I equate this to whistling in the dark to keep away the bogeyman. As long as you’re whistling the distraction will keep the fear in check, but the moment you stop it will return. The key is to identify why you think life isn’t beneficial and be with it as it is. People say be positive, but being positive to me doesn’t change the facts of why life is labeled as not beneficial. Some not so pleasant stuff does happens in life and if it’s just masked over and ignored, it becomes engrained as an energy pattern in the subconscious that never goes away. This is how life becomes non beneficial. Life itself is always beneficial, it’s people who are conditioned to make it something else, this is another lie of the Conditioned Mind.


Life will be beneficial when it’s seen in the light of how all things are impermanent including life itself. Believe me I get it, being ill, losing a loved one, living in poverty, and many others things that occur in life suck, but what makes one think it sucks is the attachment to them. Labeling it that it sucks doesn’t change what’s occurring, it only changes where life is put as being beneficial or not. When the true essence of life (impermanence) is understood, it puts life at the top of the beneficial scale regardless of what’s going on because it’s seen that one day life in this form simply will not be…


Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/19/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am not wasting my time, my effort, and my energy on the bad, wrong, and negative going on in my life! I am focusing on the awesome, right, and positive going on my life! I rather benefit with a better mindset! I am valuing my moments with joy, bliss, and fulfillment…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/19/18~

Steadiness of Love

The love that draws you to others is the love that becomes a part of both of you. The steadiness of love is the only true place of refuge where you can be stable by simply being an instrument of love.

It’s very important to be steady in love so people know there’s a place they can turn to for stability. I know many people read my articles and it’s expected they will be there, I don’t mind this because of what has been revealed to me; I’m truly honored to be used as an instrument in this way. Everyone needs a place where they know they can go and be safe from the unconscious world. It does matter where you go for stability, if you go to a place that’s used as a distraction it may feel like stability, but it isn’t. If you get lost in something menial, the day will go by simply because time waits for no one, but if you’re spending the same day in a state of awareness, you will become steady in love and people will turn to you for stability.

Don’t be concerned with what others who are unconscious say, just be steady in what you know as love and let no one take that away. Being steady in love in a world that is mostly based in the ego will allow others to be steady in their love, which is needed for any transformation to occur. The love that draws you to someone is the love that becomes a part of both of you. Life is an experience and if you’re not learning from it, you most likely have your own mind constructs of what you think it’s about. When you truly see your constructs are not needed they fall away. This falling away is of love and when you remain steady in this place others will also go there as it’s the one place of refuge where everyone can be stable by simply being the steady in love.

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/18/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am taking my life to the next level, up new heights, and beyond my imagination! I am appreciatively accepting what was, lovingly acknowledging what is, and enthusiastically appreciating what will be! I am surviving; I am thriving; I am succeeding…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Image: Mind Nourishment~

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/17/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am moving forward and not in reverse! I am thinking ahead and not living in the past! I am enjoying my adventures on this journey, enjoying my interactions along my way, and enjoying my success…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/17/18~

Created Discontent

The inner discontent that keeps you from your peace has nothing to do with life, it’s a creation of your own mind and that’s what causes the discontent which makes you believe you are not at peace…


There are practical ways to minimize the inner discontent that causes you to sabotage your own existence, but it has to be understood that the mind creating the discontent cannot quiet it. You will have to find out why your own mind is telling you this discontent is needed to cope with life; a life that is controlled by the conditioning to create this discontent. Your own mind creates every discontent you have by choosing to attach to thoughts that allow the discontent to arise, this unconscious conditioning is why one gets discontented. The Conditioned Mind develops this as you do things that are destructive to your own well being. Why this discontented mind set is developed I’m not sure, but I do know it can be described only as insane because your own mind does this.


I know now it was my own mind that created every discontent that arose from within myself. Because of the shift that occurred about eleven years ago there is now awareness so I don’t have to create discontents anymore. I sit for the sole purpose to develop discipline which allows the mind to settle. If there isn’t discipline, the conditioning nor will the arisen discontents be understood so one will be led around like a puppet on a string. Life does nothing to you, it’s your own mind that does it all. Why you live in a discontented place as opposed to a place of peace will never change until the conditioning that makes it so is changed. All I ever wanted was to be at peace, but I wasn’t aware it was my own mind that created discontents which made me believe there wasn’t any…


Labyrinth of Thought

If you keep allowing the past to control the present the past will be where you live your life. Why this is unfortunate is because all of the emotional pain of the past will also be carried into the present…


The amount of times that you relive something that causes emotional pain is mind boggling because it’s your own mind that does this and it probably happens thousands of times throughout your life. This is why most people suffer endlessly because what happened in the past is constantly allowed into the present and although the body is always in the present moment, the mind is constantly somewhere else. This is the constant state most people live their life from and if nothing is done to change this, it will continue until existence in this form ends. This isn’t a philosophy or theory nor is it something I made up, you need only look at this for yourself to see this truth, but If you don’t look at it, you will most likely remain stuck in the labyrinth of your thoughts without a way out.


As a species we seem to be lost in a labyrinth and it’s because looking at ourselves in an investigative way is not something that many people are willing to do. It’s so much easier to point the finger at someone else, but unfortunately when you point your finger at someone there are three pointing back at you; check this to see its truth. You can ignore this and keep the story that everything will work out or you can take control of your life, at least to some extent and stop attaching to the thoughts that cause your own suffering. After all the same thoughts constantly arise and if they’re not attached to them eventually they’ll stop and so will the repeated emotional suffering they cause…


Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/16/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am trusting my positive thinking, my positive attitude, and my positive behavior! I am trusting where my good thoughts take me, and I am looking forward to good outcomes! I am behaving with good intentions and communicating with love in my movement…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/16/18~

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/15/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am at peace with my past with gratitude for the future! I am thankful today, grateful now, and I am appreciating each of every moment I have! I am doing more of what I enjoy with better behavior, a better attitude, and better responses…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/15/18~

The Value of Awareness

Many have a belief that God is love, but if this is truly investigated it may be revealed that although God may need the story of love to exist, love doesn’t need the story of God to exist…


Awareness is of value because it helps you overcome your selfish nature. This is what I discovered was blocking the love of my heart from being the operating energy of my life. I don’t know how it was for anyone else, but this is what was revealed to me. Why it was this way I don’t really know, but I do know most of my life was selfishly lived trying to grasp pleasure at all cost to satisfy a self that didn’t exist in the way it was perceived. The only awareness there was in my life was how to get more things to provide pleasure so this misunderstood self could be satisfied. It wasn’t that the self didn’t exist, existence just wasn’t what I was conditioned to believe it was. It’s one of the reasons I don’t attach to beliefs today because I see them only as a story. Many have a belief that God is love, but if this is truly investigated it may be revealed that God needs the story of love to exist, but love doesn’t need the story of God to exist. Check it for yourself and see this truth.


Being aware of what’s actually happening now minimizes the stories that are needed to make life the way you think it should be. Awareness stops the story of the way you think something should be and allows the freedom of the way it is which becomes the view of the way it should be. After all wanting the present moment different than what it is is where all discontent arises from. When you’re simply aware of what arises as it arises there isn’t a need for a story and your selfish nature doesn’t come into play as the love of your heart naturally becomes the operating energy of your life…


What Is the Purpose of Icons in the Orthodox Church?



My church, St. Demetrios Greek Orthodox Church in Camarillo, is in the process of adding an icon of the Mother of God with baby Jesus in the sanctuary behind the altar. Many, who are not Orthodox, have often asked me about the many icons we venerate. They do not understand why we “worship” idols. Perhaps, I can give you some history and a bit about the Orthodox perspective. Eusebuis, in his History of the Church (2nd Century), stated "I have seen a great many portraits of the Saviour, of Peter and of Paul, which have been preserved up to our own times." Based on this statement, icons were being made very early in Church history. “Eusebuis' testimony is believed to be all the more valuable, since he was personally against icons” (as cited by Lossky 1952)1.

Icons became more popular after Christianity was legalized by Emperor Constantine in the 4th century and as the church grew. The Greek word for icon, εἰκώνa, means image.  Because the great majority of people in that day were illiterate, icons were used to teach the Biblical stories of Christ’s life, death and resurrection. They were used much like we use photographs today. You might say it is because “a picture is worth a thousand words.” Icons of Christ and the saints were used to remind Christians of the people in the stories, but they were also treasured as we treasure pictures of our loved ones, especially those who have passed away. Orthodox Christians do not worship icons. Rather, we cherish them. We kiss icons as we would kiss a picture of a beloved parent, child, or grandchild. When my mother was alive, she often kissed the pictures of her grandchildren and great-grandchildren out of the love she felt for them. When those who were evacuated due to the fires, the first thing most took with them were their precious photographs, their memories.

When we say we venerate an icon, we mean that we show our reverence, respect, and love for those portrayed in the image. Christ is our precious Lord. The saints are our heroes and role models, many of whom were martyred for their faith. Some wrote the Bible of the Old and New Testament. Others lead the way for the freedom of worship we enjoy today. They were the pioneers who recorded our theology in writings, such as the Nicene Creed. They developed the hymns, liturgical prayers and worship we practice every Sunday and on feast days. They taught us how to understand our faith. Therefore, we admire them, love them, and so we choose to remember them. They are our brothers and sisters in Christ’s Church. Certainly, no Orthodox Christian would ever say that they worship an icon, nor would it even occur to him; this would be sacrilegious.

We also ask saints to intercede on our behalf, just as we may ask a friend to pray for us. You might think of it this way: saints are considered “experts” in the practice of prayer, and so we ask them to pray to God for us, to make our request known to Him. Saints are canonized because they led a life that glorified God, and we see in them the image of God. The Eastern Orthodox Church does not follow a formal process of canonization. For the Orthodox, “Canonization does not make anybody a saint. Canonization recognizes that someone already was, in his own lifetime, a saint.”2 Since we were created in the image of God, saints are those whose lives preserved that original image and can be imitated. 

Miracles are often associated with saints and icons. For example, some icons miraculously exude myrrh. My mother told my siblings and me many stories of miracles she had heard or had seen, which involved icons. One story she told us was about a blind man who prayed for his sight to be restored. He prayed to the Virgin Mary in front of her well-known icon in Tinos. He promised that he would donate a silver sculpture of the first thing he saw when he received his sight. The first thing he saw was an orange tree, so today, you can find that silver orange tree at the Panagia Church in Tinos, Greece, alongside other offerings, such as arms, legs, eyes and human organs that were healed. Christ loves His mother, and therefore, her prayers are exceptionally influential.

James instructs us to “pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The prayer of the righteous is powerful and effective” (James 5:16). The miracles associated with saints attest to their righteousness. Martyred saints have a special place in heaven, under the altar of God. “I saw under the altar the souls of those who had been slaughtered for the word of God and for the testimony they had given” (Revelation 6:9). Christ hears their voices, and so we ask them to pray for us.

Today, we do not have many real heroes worthy to be role models and admired by our children. Their heroes are athletes, celebrities, or comic book heroes. Icons of Christ and the saints can open the door to conversations about the attributes God finds pleasing in His saints, qualities such as humility, integrity, honesty and compassion. Christians should know the stories of the heroes of our church who deserve reverence and respect because of the way they lived their lives, and the way their lives glorified God.  

1  Lossky, V. and Oupensky, L. (1982). The Meaning of Icons (3rd ed.). New York: St. Vladimir Seminary Press. Retrieved on December 2018 from http://www.serfes.org/orthodox/icon.htm.
2  1970. Canonization of Saint Herman of Alaska. Kodiak, Alaska. Retrieved on December 2018 from https://oca.org/fs/canonization.
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It's Your Life

It’s your life and as easy as it may be to follow someone else’s way, if they didn’t live the life that you’re leading their tools just may not be the tools for living the life you live…

There are many people that came before us who left pointers to follow a way that they used to bring peace into their life. Follow Jesus, Buddha or some others, but the thing to ask yourself is did they live the kind of life that you live and if not although their teachings may have value, unless they can be applied to the life you live, their significance may not apply. This isn’t to down play anyone’s path, but I’m a parent, a husband, I have a thirty year same job career. I own a home which requires constant maintenance amongst all the other responsibilities that come along with this kind of life. I don’t know of many that came before me that led this exact kind of life so although I studied many spiritual teachings (not followed) I’m carving my life with tools that apply to the way my life is, leaking roofs, car accidents, and all.

What happens when you blindly follow someone is you remain blind to the experiences in your own life which is what allows you to learn and grow. It’s very nice to say I’ll just let it go, but unless this is truly understood when the boiler stops working in the middle of the winter or the AC is blowing hot air when it’s 95 degrees outside, let’s see if who you are following went through that and how easy it is to let it go, especially when your family is involved. Like I said this isn’t to down play anyone’s path or not to utilize the tools that others left behind, but carve a way that’s practical to your life and since everyone’s life is different and a person can only share the tools as they apply to their life, stop following anyone and start using the tools that are practical and beneficial to you, simply because it’s your life…

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/14/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am creating my future with the power of my intention and looking forward to the desired outcomes! I am consciously determining what my future will reveal to me, what I will attract to me, and what I intend to be doing! I am looking forward to good health, harmonious relations, enriching adventures, and loving moments…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/14/18~

Already Validated

We need nothing to be complete, but at times we look to others for our validation because it’s not understood that the only true validation needed comes from within ourselves…

Others should never be allowed to be the source of your validation because the driving force behind it may not be warranted. A few months ago I was approached by someone about my writings who said they have really evolved and was told I was doing a very good job and to keep it up. I proceeded to tell them I wasn’t really doing anything differently than I had done previously, but I thanked them and didn’t give it much thought. The funny thing is the base of my writings have always been the same.

The question is how mush should the assessment be listened to? Obviously my mind tells me to listen to it because it’s favorable, but I chose not to put my validation in what someone else says. Since nothing has changed in the way my writings are approached since day one, why should I allow someone else to affect me in any way. That’s really the point of this, until we truly love ourselves, we will always look to others for our validation. The mind wants to be told we are doing well, but it’s not really needed. It’s just that without the understanding that you are complete as you are and the worlds validation isn’t needed for this completeness, you will continue to look outside for a validation that can only occur from within because your validation is already in place…

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/13/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am meant to be blissful, amused, and entertained with my interests, interactions, adventures, and events! I am meant to be successful and joyful with my life, so I am continuing forward with an inspired and motivated life! I am doing whatever is necessary to inspire me and support my motivation…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/13/18~

How to Banish Loneliness from You Life - Age With Charm

How to Banish Loneliness from You Life - Age With Charm

Circular Energy

Aversion will never be driven out by aversion so if it’s not observed that aversion is in place, it will remain and the energy that you despise in another will be the same energy that’s controlling you…


Many things will cross your path throughout the day, some will be liked, some will not and others you couldn’t care less about. The key to the things that arise is being aware of them and observing which ones grab you, which ones are pushed away, and which ones naturally come and go without attaching to them because nothing sticks. These observations become more and more important as you become more aware of them. Things occur all the time, but they’re not noticed. Very few people are in touch with just observing them which allows the things that occur to be in control. Many things occur in life that aren’t particularly cared for, but all the energy that goes into not accepting them and trying to change them with non loving actions generates the same energy.


Unloving energy will never be changed with unloving energy, especially when the driving force behind it arises because you didn’t get your way. If this isn’t observed it keeps the unloving energy in place. Aversion will never be driven out by aversion, so if it’s not observed that aversion is in place it will remain and the very thing that you despise is the very thing that you become; this is the way it is when one is unconscious and allows things to affect you. There’s nothing wrong with being disappointed for a millisecond, but after that it becomes attachment and suffering begins. This suffering isn’t because things didn’t work out the way that is wanted, no the suffering arises because you have no clue the energy you despise in another is the same energy that’s controlling you…


Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/12/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am keeping my attitude of gratitude on the good stuff, and leading myself with positive thoughts! I am keeping my thoughts on the brighter side of things and leading myself with a positive perspective! I am keeping my hopes up, my will strong, and my focus on the desired outcomes…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/12/18~

Openness Possibilities

There are so many possibilities in life when there’s no past labels applied to what’s occurring in front of you. The Universe provides these possibilities when you’re in harmony with a life and not living in the past…
Openness is your greatest asset because without being open nothing arises or at least nothing that’s beneficial. Openness leads to possibilities never experienced before, but when the heart is closed and the mind is in control the doors to possibilities are also closed. Whatever arise in life can be seen as it is with an openness only if it’s not labeled. In this way life can be experienced anew as the Universe opens up more and more possibilities. Even if some past behavior arises, without the judgment of applying a label it allows the heart to remain open and the possibility to go beyond the past label to experience something new.
Newness doesn’t always have to be an aha moment, it can be a simple act of not judging what’s in front of you and just experiencing that and moving on. Once something is labeled, the heart closes and so do all the possibilities along with it. To experience all the possibilities that life offers is to not allow the past to be a part of what is being done right now. If it is, obviously it remains as something old not something new, but even though it may be from a past habitual mind pattern that’s in place, it’s only old because it’s labeled as such. Without applying a label, the heart remains open and the possibilities that are provided by the Universe are beyond anything a limited mind can conjure up…

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/11/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
"I am looking forward optimistically while moving forward positively! I am moving forward positively while acting purposefully! I am acting purposefully while being the best version I can be..."
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: http://www.lifeguidance.support/blog/post/selfempowerment-todays-positive-statement-121118

Life Just Is

When the past is used to form an identification as you, it doesn’t allow getting in touch with what’s truly going on, therefore most of life is missed simply because life isn’t personal, it just is…

A person is always changing unless the past is being used to define who you are. This is done by holding onto past behaviors patterns and identifying them as you. This you had no control whatsoever in what was done in the past. This you just did what your developed Conditioned Mind told you. This you was influenced by other people’s conditioning (who unfortunately know not what they do). The more this you is identified with the past, the more control it will have in holding you in captivity to it. There isn’t one thought from the past that truly identifies you. When your named at birth, is that you? When school begins and certain traits are noticed that are just there, is that you? Is your athletic ability you? Your IQ, looks, talents, weight, personality, is that you? If you say yes, who is it that’s saying yes? How about when you get older, job, social status, significant other, pets, children, material worth, what you’re attracted to, what you attach to, and so on, are any of these things truly you? They can all be you if that’s what you’re attaching to and identifying with, but the real question is are any of them truly you?

When the false identity of you is revealed, you’re still the same person in the sense of what your experience has been, but there’s no clinging to it so the mental formation of you isn’t created. This is when true freedom is experienced because the concept of you isn’t blocking it. You creates your prison, but you doesn’t create freedom because a you based mind can’t fix itself. Beyond the concept of you in the space of stillness is an inner sanctuary that will only be seen when it’s realized life isn’t personal, it just is….

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/10/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I know life is truly amazing and wonderful, so I am moving forward living this truth! I am creating my bliss on my terms! I am living an awesome life like I am meant to! I am making myself useful because I matter…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/10/18~

The Root of Reaching

When the mind settles it can be said to desire “You don’t satisfy me anymore” and that’s because it’s seen the only reason something is reached for is to alter one’s mind state of needing to be satisfied…


For most of my life I reached out for things because whatever I was reaching for it was thought to be needed to satisfy some inner desire; this took me out of the present moment and put me in the monotony of the past or future mind state . This desire to be satisfied was constantly chased after and an array of things were used to achieve it; from drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, food, TV, power, and whatnot, feel free to add your own. There was the constant desire to be satisfied by something because I didn’t have the ability to be with myself without altering my mind state. Desire is the root as to why anyone reaches for anything and without this desire to alter your mind state there would not be a need to be satisfied and reach out for anything.


The past and future mind state monotony that’s created is there because it’s not known how to just be in the present moment and not need it different. There are so many things used to satisfy a desired mind state that go beyond some of the conventional things like drugs, alcohol, sex, and gambling, here are a few of the more subtle things used, speeding up to beat the yellow traffic light, weaving in and out of traffic, rooting for your favorite sports team or country, talking about others, cheating on a spouse, surfing the net and on and on, all these are used to alter an agitated mind state. When this reaching stops it’s because fulfilling a desire doesn’t satisfy you anymore. Either something will be used that you think is needed to fulfill a desire or you’ll learn it’s okay to be with yourself as you are because it’s who you will be with for the rest of your life…


Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/09/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
"I have within me the strength and power to firmly continue! I have within me the will and desire to be successful! I am continuing confidently stronger and I am empowering myself to succeed! I am making the most of the supportive resources and loving relationships to assist me for the better..."
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: http://www.lifeguidance.support/blog/post/selfempowerment-todays-positive-statement-120918

Beneath What's Seen

Beneath what’s seen there’s nothing but space, this is where the possibility of truly seeing what life is about arises. Why this is difficult to grasp is because of trying to figure it out with what’s seen on the surface…


A dog chasing its tail is a perfect example of the activity of the mind that’s in place for most people. One thought after another, no space, no quietness, just the noise of the world manifesting through what’s seen (thought). If you could just sit back in a space where the noise subsides, there’s a chance to truly see what Jesus and Buddha spoke of. If you think you have an idea of what life is about I’m sorry to disappoint you, but that’s just noise. There are no answers to what life is about, but the more you go by what is seen, the more you will think you have it figured out. I’m not saying I know what life is about, but I do know what it isn’t about and it has nothing to do with what’s seen. The more you are controlled by the what’s seen on the surface, the less life is experienced. Beneath what’s seen on the surface is the only place where life is truly experienced. You can travel all around the world and make up the story of all the beauty that’s seen around you, but it’s only a story conjured up to provide pleasure and store it your pleasurable memory pocket. Beneath the surface no story is needed, no pleasure is needed, in fact nothing is needed because this is where true life exist.


Think about it, your entire life is a story until one day you no longer exist and your story ends at least in your current form. Every storied experience is taken with you as if it never occurred. You think the stories are needed so you could make sense of your life, but really they mean absolutely nothing because they are all only created from what is seen. Buddha talked about delusion, Jesus spoke of not being of this world, what do you think they were talking about? If you remain entrapped to what’s seen on the surface, you will remain prone to suffering. Beneath what’s seen there’s nothing but space, this is where the possibility of truly seeing what life is about arises. Why this is difficult to grasp is because of trying to figure it out with what’s seen on the surface…


Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/08/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am enjoying my time while I can today and making the most of it while I have it! I am doing what I must to be positive during the present and I am doing what is necessary of me to be optimistic about my future! I am focusing on the positive not for worse but for the better…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/08/18~

A Made Up Self

Animals are mostly identified by their form, humans on the other hand are given names for identification purposes and this is the beginning of our separation by making up a self as an individual.

There are so many stories that go into the making of who you think you are that your true self beyond form gets blocked and is seldom noticed. Think about it, from the time you’re a child you’ve been conditioned by parents, relatives, teachers, friends, religions, all media, and whatever is in your DNA. So I ask where is the real you in all the identifying of self? Existence in this form begins as an egg inside a being labeled women and then mother. With Universal Conditions being just right, this eggs energy is transformed into human form. This form is then named for identification purposes and the rest of existence is spent shaping the identity and making up a self; there is a self that does exist it’s just not in the way that it’s perceived. We attach to the things we think will benefit this made up self and so much of this comes from someone else’s ideas. Every book, seminar, video, and whatnot is someone else’s idea of how they think you should be and if you like what they have to say, it’s taken as truth. They are then followed and what they say is taken and applied to further engrain this made up self.

So much nonsense goes into the making up of self and it’s the reason why one is self centered. If your focus is constantly on self and your self is a story of made up nonsense, how may I ask can there not be issues when your self is the focus? A fruit tree can only produce its own fruit as the made up self can only produce self centered results. This is the self that’s mostly perceived by humanity, but there is another self that’s been with you your entire existence, there’s just not awareness of it because of the focus on the made up self. Most say this self doesn’t exist, but I know it does, it’s just doesn’t exist in the way that most people think it does…

Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/07/18~

Today’s self-empowering statement to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am grateful for every goal I accomplish and I am thankful for all those who have supported me along my way! I am thankful for every milestone I have accomplished and I am grateful for all those who have encouraged me along my way! I am inspired to continue, aspired to succeed, and motivated to finish…”
to continue a greater life!
Great day to you, as a great day continues~
Edward F. T. Charfauros
Life Guide and Author

Source: Self~Empowerment: Today’s Positive Statement– 12/07/18~

The Slightest Push

An awakening can be compared to a ball on a hill, nothing more is needed than the slightest push to get it rolling, and it will just keep on building momentum until something gets in the way to stop it…

Once a ball is placed at the top of a hill and it’s given the slightest push it naturally begins rolling in the only direction it can go, and its momentum builds without one ounce of effort. It does take a little effort in the beginning to get it going, but not much more than a slight push. It’s this way when one wakes up from the sleep of unconsciousness, there’s not much that needs to be done to expand, as a matter of fact most people don’t wake up fully because of trying to hard. If you are awake the push has already occurred, so all effort is now futile. So many books, programs, videos, and whatnot and although they make you knowledgeable, none of it makes you anymore awake than the slightest push.

This is one of the reasons I emphasis using the body as an anchor in the awakening process, because it doesn’t take effort, it only takes being with what is actually here, which is the present moment. All kinds of stories can be made up about what needs to be done, but none of it expands you more than the first push. Either you are awake in the quietness of the present moment or you are asleep in the noise of everywhere else. The first push reveals this truth and as with the ball, nothing else is needed than the slightest push to get it rolling, and it will just keep on building momentum that is until something gets in the way to stop it…