Conditioned Opinions

An opinion is nothing more than a made up story from a mind conditioned to self serve. There’s no truth to an opinionated story because there isn’t anything factual to back it up…

Life happens and it’s interpreted through conditioned opinions. For me, it is very difficult opinions serious because of their nature. There are so many stories made from opinions, where it becomes humorous is because opinions really have no value. People think they do and will state them adamantly, but they don’t. They are given more credibility and have more affect on things the higher the position one has in society or is held in esteem, but the value of any opinion should always be questionable because they are all derived from someone’s Conditioned Mind, not from facts. I know this was how most of opinions were formed, there wasn’t much facts in them, and whether it was an opinion about a person, place, or thing, it really only had value to me because my conditioning was based to self serve; my opinions were all created from a self serving thought base.

This self serving opinion based process took years to develop. When something occurred it was placed in a category of like or dislike as quickly as it occurred. There wasn’t a thought process to this, it just went automatically in it’s conditioned assigned category. All opinions are valueless even though a person may think theirs matters, but they don’t because there’s no truth to them. When something isn’t based in truth, its pretty much valueless. So form your opinions and make decisions based on them, but don’t be surprised when things remain the same because not much can change if most of your decisions are made from an opinion base lie instead of one of factual truth. Don’t take things to serious and enjoy all the humorous opinions, it’s truth that sets you free; without it your self serving truthless opinions remain in control…

Liberating Focus

Your focused energy determines how existence manifest. If you’re constantly focused on yourself, your actions will be selfish. If you possess the whole world, but aren’t liberated from yourself, you’ll remain in captivity…

For me the key to being liberated from the captivity of self is turning my focused energy away from greed and lustful thoughts. When the mind gets stuck in these thoughts, to be liberated it needs to become unstuck. What makes it get stuck is energy mostly focused on satisfying self in some way. Pay attention to the sensations of the body, mind, and mental formations. This is a direct path to how one becomes liberated from suffering.

Liberation from suffering is not pain free, it’s learning to be with the pain that arises. You cannot hide from what’s happening, you can only divert your focus away from it. To not have your energy engaged in satisfying the self is where the path of liberation leads to. How this is done is by stopping the focused energy of self and focusing it towards what will liberate you. The self is there and it has been given a name, it also has many other labels attached to it, but there’s bondage because of the mere fact of the attachment it has to itself. Liberation is in understanding the lies of self, it isn’t in creating a concept or belief in something.

You can only be free when focusing on what allows freedom, but it’s tricky because of the mastery of the Conditioned Mind. Constant vigilance is needed for the liberation from self. You’re alive so you exist, but it will be your focused energy that determines the extent of the liberation you have from self and that will be the determining factor of how your existence manifest…

Energy of Now

Now energy is naturally free flowing because there’s no resistance, there’s no trying to make it different. Future energy stops the flow because it’s based in trying to manipulate Now…

Being aware of Now as it happens minimizes the future stories that are needed to make life a certain way. Awareness stops this story and allows the freedom of Now, this becomes the beautiful view of what actually is. After all wanting Now different is where all future discontentment arises from. When you’re simply aware of what arises there isn’t a need for a future story and selfish energy doesn’t come into play; this allows the love of your heart to naturally become the beautiful operating energy of life.

Future energy becomes a created prison because it doesn’t allow for a natural flow of life’s energy; you become entombed in the energy of the future. It’s the Conditioned Mind that cuts off the energy flow of Now as it becomes the energy of the lower nature of self centered nonsense. Why this future energy causes issue is because it bombards Now with an unnatural energy flow and doesn’t allow harmony. Now naturally free flows because there’s no resistance, there’s no needing it different. Future energy stops the flow because it’s based in trying to manipulate Now so what’s there is resisted to the point where the natural flow of Now energy is cut off. The only thing needed for liberation is awareness aware of awareness, there’s no future energy here, there’s just the energy of what occurs Now…

Lure Of Pleasure

The most important thing to understand about the lure of pleasure is the less you’re attached to “I” the less you’ll be lured in and it’s because without “I” there’s no one who needs the next pleasure…

The lure of pleasure is so enticing because it actually feels good and this is why it’s so powerful. There’s only issue with this because of the impermanent nature of pleasure. It simply will not last, it has no staying power so some other pleasure will be needed almost immediately following the attainment of each pleasure. Think about it, with all the pleasures that have been attained throughout your life regardless of what it was, it doesn’t bring the pleasure now that it brought at that time, and most times even if the same exact pleasure is physically repeated it’s not as pleasurable as the first experience. I used so many things as I was lured in by my pleasure seeking conditioning, but it was never lasting, the enticement of the next needed pleasure always arose. This went on all the time, attaining one pleasure after another and never being satisfied.

I’ve come to understand this lure of pleasure as the main reason people start using and become addicted to alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, money, tobacco products and an array of other things. If pleasure wasn’t sought, nothing would be reached for so there would never be an addiction nor any issues, but unfortunately the lure of pleasure has its way with people. It’s deeply ingrained in the subconscious and has been in place since our existence began. I know this lure of pleasure is what was controlling me for forty nine years and it was directly associated with “I”. Without “I” no one is there to be lured in. Even with this understanding the lure of pleasure doesn’t just disappear, but it does subside somewhat. To me the most important thing to understand about this is, the less one is attached to “I” the less one will be lure in and it’s because without “I” there’s no one who needs the next pleasure…

Human Observations

 Life is full of observations of varied kinds. My observations are about people, incidents involving humans, relationships, moods, family dynamics, the realities of life, and a host of other things, which are infinite. The depth of my observation can be measured with my opinion of a particular category. The best part is that when I observe people or a particular person, I see the person as a whole, and at times and feel the purity of the soul of that person!

People

The most interesting category of my observations is human beings. I thoroughly enjoy scrutinizing the various nuances of humans. They are very intriguing and forever changing, according to their emotions and circumstances, while, on the other hand, some humans remain rigid and averse to any change, with time. Each person has layers and layers of personality, which carry various dark and bright shades. I see through these shades by a mere look at them and understand the kind of person he/she might be. That is the fun part, of observing humans, as I am absolutely amazed by the variety and uniqueness of each person. Their personality is clearly depicted by their mannerisms, whether they are in a group or present themselves individually.

Humans as a whole interest me, as they are so complicated, yet so simple, now that might be a contradicting statement, but, that is a fact, as humans are an enigma, they are an amalgam of a host of personality components that are not only intriguing but mind-boggling as well. Now you will ask me, "What is your observation about humans?" Well, that is an interesting question! The answer is any normal human being is a balance of his emotional, mental and spiritual quotient. Those who are able to balance these three intrinsic components of their personalities, turn out to be successful and lead a peaceful, content, and satisfying life, while those who are not able to strike a balance between these three components lead a life of discontent and constant mental strife. Their outward appearance shows their balanced or imbalanced attributes.

Family Dynamics

Family dynamics emerge out of relationships and internal family politics. It is all about who takes control as the head of the family and who follows the leader of the family. Those who quietly appease the head of the family and suppress their own wishes and desires for the sake of family peace and just live their lives according to the head of the family, just live their lives in his/her fear. They don't have the guts to rebel against the leader of the family, even if he/she is wrong. But, those who are rebels, or are the black sheep of the family, tend to rebel against the head of the family and go their own way and lead their lives independently.

Incidents involving Humans

When I observe incidents involving humans, I see numerous aspects of humans altogether! These incidents can take place in a marketplace, a friend's party. an office gathering or something which happened at the roadside! Humans amaze me when, constantly, in different scenarios, different incidents take place. I wonder at times, that have I really seen it all, in this huge Kaleidoscope of the human population? Incidents can be like these, like the other day I saw a middle-aged woman being chased by an aged psycho, in a bustling marketplace! No matter what she did, she could not shoo him away, till she sat in her car! In the same way, I saw a hassled mother trying to feed her erratic toddler in a restaurant. She was controlling her anger and going about her business patiently and made sure to feed her kid, despite stiff resistance! 

There was another incident, where I saw a group of youngsters on the roadside having a heated argument and I could clearly see a spew of emotions and tempers flying in the air! I was astounded to see one thing, which amused me no end and that was, that there was one girl, a young sprightly girl. who was pitted against a whole group of eight gutsy guys! After a fifteen-minute squabble, all of those guys finally seemed to listen to her and accede to her wishes. After she finished what she had to say, the boys demurely went back to business. 

Observing such an incident in the busy bustling streets of India, where the guys were literally defeated at the hands of a young girl, made me feel very proud of her. I think she was warning those guys to not do something, as she undeniably did not like it and had to put her foot down, maybe it was a personal or a professional issue. Such incidents bring out the character of humans and I love making a mental note of them.

Relationships

 When I scrutinize relationships, then, I feel, that they are the most beautiful set of bonds among humans. They are the binding force, the soul of humanity, as a whole. Those who are are able to sustain their relationships and are able to nurture their bonds are able to lead a life of fulfillment and satisfaction.  

Each relationship, whether it is a parental bond, a bond of friendship, a sibling bond, or any other bond for that matter, is a complex mixture of emotions. Once these relationships are formed, they grow and mature with time. The most important aspect that I have noticed, in any relationship, is the effort that goes into sustaining it for a lifetime! 

  Parents need to constantly work towards providing healthy and all-around growth for their children and at the same time change their parenting techniques according to the times, otherwise, they face a huge communication gap, with their kids. Friendship is a bond, that is the best relationship of all, as it doesn't have rules and it is full of affection and care. Mutual respect plays an important role in any friendship. Sibling bonds are again the cutest of all, as siblings grow up together, share the most cherished moments together and when they are adults, their mutual fondness grows by leaps and bounds, and certainly for any person, when it comes to his/her sibling, blood is thicker than water, no doubt!

Mood 

Mood. What is a mood? Well, moods can be of a group or of a person. Moods create a vibrancy a defining character to any person or a group. Moods can again be varied, they can be filled with joy and enthusiasm, or they can be morbid and outrightly sad. Moods give a vibe to any person, a positive or a negative vibe, and his/her outside appearance exudes that vibe. The internal moods of any group or person create auras and these auras form positive and negative clouds around them. Moods are like waves that have higher crests when a person feels positive, happy, and full of life and they have lower crests, when they feel low and lost and have less hope and are filled with sadness and desperation. Moods permeate and seep into each group or person and according to my observation, moods define their basic essence and character.

Realities of Life

Now, coming to my observation of the realities of Life. I would honestly like to ask this question to all my readers, that how many of you are acquainted with the realities of life? What are they? How do you say in an assertive and affirmative way, that I am aware of the realities of Life? I would love to answer these questions, by saying that those people, who go through the vagaries of life and struggle through numerous challenges and ultimately emerge victorious, know the reality of life. 

The reality of life is that nothing comes easy. Each person has to strive to achieve success in whatever he/she does and this is true for everyone, whether they are rich or poor, or belong to any community. Another most prominent reality of life is that suffering is an integral part of our lives. Sufferings are like the tests of God. They come in phases. Normally we suffer for a fixed amount of time and if we have the conviction to surmount the miseries and fight it out, we come out victorious! Each human faces these phases of suffering and how his/her life shapes up. totally depends on how they bravely battle it out and emerge victorious. The reality of life is that one must go with the flow and take life as it comes and be totally prepared for any eventuality. We have one life and we should strive to live it fully and savor every moment of it.

Phew! This blog has certainly turned out to be lengthy, but, I tried to put nearly all my observations, in relation to this interesting category of humans, in one blog. I hope you enjoy reading it, as I enjoyed writing it.

   

Fake Answers

Because of the way a person becomes conditioned fake answers are made up that fit into certain spots, and the reason you’re constantly adding these fake answers is you think they will make life better…

The issue with having to constantly arrange life as if there were certain answers that make it better is it’s fake, and even if there’s some semblance of contentment with these fake answers, almost immediately the mind looks for another fake answer. Life is continuous, it’s broken up into fragments (fake answers) by a mind that’s in a constant state of agitation. If this wasn’t true, you would see life as complete and wouldn’t constantly need to arrange it to your liking. It isn’t because of anything right or wrong that makes you see things in this way, it’s because the mind has been trained this way and it can only do what it’s trained to do; it needs answers and fake ones fit just fine.

The Conditioned Mind sees fake answers in just about everything. Sweets, drugs, alcohol, gambling, success, porn, the shortest line in the supermarket, God, religion, programs, diets, degrees, to do list, and so on, all these are attached to strictly so another fake answer can be put in place; you think life will be perfect with this fake answer. Let’s say everyday you make up a new fake answer, that would mean you if you were my age (63) you made up at least 23,000 fake answers in your life (365 x 63) all for the sole purpose to constantly have life the way you think it should be (fake). Making up fake answers doesn’t really change anything because you still have to constantly arrange life to make it complete…

A Created Vacancy

Creating a vacancy is due to the misunderstanding of what love is. If you fill the vacancy with the things of the world it will never be filled. If you fill the vacancy with love for others it will never exist…

I had a vacancy in my life for forty nine years that always needed to be filled. I didn’t know this at the time, but it was the absence of love that created this vacancy. This is a very simplistic yet profound explanation of the nature of this vacancy. Without love this vacancy is the cause of every dysfunctional behavior in life. It makes you view life from the material realm and the vacancy cannot be filled from this realm. It uses whatever it can to be filled, and until it’s filled with love you will keep trying to fill it. This is why dysfunctional behavior manifest because when your view is from the material realm it’s self-serving and isn’t based in love. You will use whatever you become conditioned to use. You will even use a false concept of love to fill this vacancy.

This viewed is developed because you think your answer to fill the vacancy is in the form of some object. Nothing this vacancy is filled with is lasting because whatever you use is limited. Think about this, any object that you use from the material world has a limit to it. Nothing of this world last forever except eternal love so the vacancy will never be filled with anything materiel. Any object used is limited so the amount of time the vacancy is filled will be limited. It will never stay filled for long unless it’s filled with love…