Actual Reality

Ever so slowly the Conditioned Mind loses its control when discipline is developed. It’s this discipline that allows you to be with actual reality instead of needing to make something up…

At times it’s difficult to be with actual reality because the mind constantly wants to make something up; this is the dilemma the Conditioned Mind creates. It has nothing to do with nothing, but it has everything to do with everything. Through developing certain discipline this constant needing to make something up can be tamed. Ever so slowly the Conditioned Mind will relinquish its control if discipline is developed. My writings may open some eyes, but it’s the development of discipline that allows the mind to settle which will lead to lasting insights that are used to enhance life.

Most people have tools in place that have nothing to do with developing discipline or enhancing life. The tools in place actually reinforce the conditioning which keeps one entrapped in a self created prison. With the prison being a mind that’s everywhere but the only place that truly exists; actual reality. If you’re not with actual reality, you cannot truly live life to the fullest. Of course there’s existence because you’re alive, but being alive doesn’t equate to living life to the fullest. Only being with actual reality will ensure this and only with discipline will the mind settle enough for you to be with actual reality instead of needing to make something up…

Loving Moments

Loving moments occur in the present, self-serving desires disrupt the awareness of this. Only a mind that’s settled to be present can understand a loving moment…

Sometimes it’s difficult to know what the right thing to do is. I’m not talking about clearly recognizable things, sometimes it isn’t so clear as to what should be done. It’s especially difficult when it involves other people. For myself, letting go allows me to be more focused on love; this is all part of the learning curve of letting go. It matters little what your intentions are if your reactions aren’t of love.

This learning curve should be used to stay open to expand a view of love and not get caught up in a self-serving view. Love and tolerance have to be at the forefront when others are involved. It’s not always easy to understand where others are coming from so it’s better not to judge and to try and deal with situations from a loving place. This is much easier said than done, but by practicing quietness it gets easier to decipher what the right action is. We shouldn’t be too hard on ourselves because of our Conditioned Mind, the slow process of awakening has to be accepted if there’s to be peace. On the other hand our conditioning is not to be ignored because we won’t learn from it and the same reactions will be repeated over and over again.

Although our journey may seem mundane at times, it’s only a self-serving mind that makes it seem this way; life can never be mundane. Each moment of each day is new unto itself, and when it’s lived in the present it’ll be realized what a gift life truly is. It’ll be understood what our learning curve affords us is not the mundane life of living in the past or future, but the ability to live in the present and respond to life from a place of love instead of reacting to it from a self-serving mind. The more this is done, the less mundane life will be and the more loving moments one will have for themselves and hence for all beings…

Depth of Stillness

The depth of your stillness is what determines the depth of your love. Without depth there is just what’s on the surface and this flip flops so easily because of the dependency on things…

The deeper the stillness is your foundation, the more love will be emanated in your life, and obviously the more love you have, the more love you can give. Also the deeper the stillness, the less your conditioning is in control. Go to the depth not known and go to a place of purity. This will take a tremendous amount of understanding of why you aren’t this way already. The transformation that occurs with this understanding from the head to the heart will determine the depth of your love. It’s essential to get to the heart, but without stillness one remains stuck in the head.

I’ve seen this played out first hand in my life so to me, when love comes from the head it benefits no one. It’s the heart of love that’s pure. The head is usually filled with some mind made concept of love; there are many conditions put on this type of love. This is the cause of the flip flopping between the head and heart. The lack of stillness creates a flip flop foundation so our emotions are very easily swayed by things; the things that sway us are allowed to occur because our emotions are that of an immature child. Why else are we swayed when things don’t go our way? Does not a child act in the same manner? Do not we as adults, act in the same manner of stamping our feet when we don’t get our way?

The purity of a child is different than the immature emotions of a child, so learn to go deeper than the surface and you’ll see a level of maturity not previously known. When this does become known, your life will be much more stable because you won’t be so easily swayed by the nonsense the world provides as a foundation. With a solid and mature foundation based in stillness which is beyond what happens on the surface, flip flopping ceases as the love of the heart is how life is lived…

Space of Love

To be inside the space of love the heart must be unlocked. Although this may not change what’s outside the space, it does change you from viewing life from “I” to viewing life from love…

Think of it as though life is a fenced in backyard, when you love you’re inside the fence and when you don’t it means you’re living mostly from “I” which automatically puts you outside the fence. Outside the fence was how the first forty nine years of my life were lived. Occasionally I was inside the space of the fence, but not very often. This was because my “I” conditioning kept my heart locked which didn’t allow me to access the fence. It’s nearly impossible to enter the fence from “I” because “I” is the lock that keeps that heart closed and thus the opening to the fence closed. When you see this, it gives you something tangible to work with which allows the heart to be unlocked. With an unlocked heart one can be inside the space of love more often than not.

Life and love are synonymous, but only when inside the space of love, and you can only be inside when the heart is unlocked and opened. The locks of the world that keep you outside the fence are many. Think of it as though you are on the outside of a house looking in through a window. Love unlocks the heart to see things that were previously unseen; this is what opens you to see as if you were inside the house looking out. When you’re on the inside looking out it’s because the heart is unlocked. With the heart unlocked it may not change what’s around you, but it does change your space from viewing life from “I” to viewing life from love…

Thinking Habits

Part of the process of a settling mind is noticing the incessant thinking habits that cause you and others harm and changing them in ways that are beneficial to you and to all beings…

For years I had thinking habits and acted in ways that weren’t beneficial to me or anyone else. I was perplexed by this for many years because I didn’t understand why this was so. I didn’t get why anyone would do anything that wasn’t a true benefit to their life, but it goes on all the time; just watch the news. Forget it don’t watch the news because there isn’t much benefit to that. We act in ways that harm others and ourselves. To me, this is truly mind boggling, but it’s where my passion to assist others in exposing thinking habits is derived from. I don’t blame me or anyone else for the way I developed; it‘s just the way I became habitually conditioned. 

If there is fault anywhere it’s with society as a whole, that’s the collective conditioning as opposed to individual conditioning, but there really isn’t fault anywhere because becoming conditioned is just the way life is. The type of conditioning is what needs to be focused on. If we were all conditioned to love the world would be much different. Since this isn’t the case we need to learn to develop thinking habits that make us act and think in ways the are beneficial to our well being and the planet as a whole…

Keep Your Side Clean

Life will always take care of itself regardless if you think you’re its self appointed spokesperson and you’re going to set everyone straight who doesn’t conform to the way you think things should be…

Some people are really full of themselves and all they can see is their own righteousness. They will hurt others and justify it as it being for the greater good, but it’s only their assessment of what that greater good is. I would say the greater good is to love, but that’s just for me; I do know this, there is no love in judging. No matter how right you think you are, love is always tolerant, it will never hurt another. If someone is doing something that you think is wrong, life will be their judge, but people feel it’s their right to take matters into their own hands. It’s utter nonsense to think I know what’s best for you when I’m not even sure I know what’s best for me, but how we can justify and really be full of ourselves in taking the inventory of others.

It’s truly amazing how quick people are to judge others, and the judgements are opinion based and only deal with what the person judging thinks. It matters little to the one judging how they affect the person as long as they can get it off their chest. After all, they have deemed themselves life’s spokesperson and they have an obligation to help others see the errs of their ways, so they think. Who is to say that what a person thinks is right for everyone and what makes one person think they know what’s best for someone else. I know I will never tell you how dirty your side of the street is because mine is also dirty; it’s just part of being human, but it amazes me how many people think they’re justified and perfect enough to tell someone else what’s right and what’s wrong. There’s only what’s right for you no matter how dirty someone else’s side of the street may be to you…

Trust Life

Happiness is a by product of love. It’s not something that can be forced to happen, it will only happen when you trust life to produce it as opposed to trying to force it…

You can try and force things to happen in your life, or you can simply trust life. When you trust life it produces a much different living arrangement than trying to force things. Instead of the constant tugging, there is a certain ease and peace when you trust. The tugging is produced directly from trying to force things. Trust produces the opposite, both are within your grasp, it’s a matter of what you truly want in your life; things your way or peace.

You will know what you want by what you pay attention to. The things that you pay attention become the base of life. If you always pay attention to wanting the pleasures of life than self serving energy will be your base. If you pay attention to how can you bring more love into the lives of all beings than that energy will be your base. To be free of the self serving mind is to stop trying to force happiness and trust life to produce it. To cultivate a mind that looks how it can love more produces a life that’s based in trust. When you stop trying to force your happiness, that’s when you will truly be happy because it’s a by product of love not of want…